Sunday, July 14, 2019

"Lessons from the Dying" by Bonnie ware:


Some lessons from the "Lessons of the Dying" by Bonnie Ware:

If we accept our inevitable death with honest acceptance, we will be able to shift our priorities before it is too late.  Once we accept that limited time is remaining, we are less driven by EGO or what others think of us, but to be driven by what we truly want.

This acceptance of our inevitable, approaching death offers us then the opportunity to find greater purpose and satisfaction in the remaining time we have.

Regret 1: Not living a life true to ourselves 

We do More to avoid pain than to gain pleasure. Often, only when the pain gets too much that we make changes.  

Regret 2: I wish I hadn’t work so hard
There is nothing wrong with loving your work and wanting to apply yourself to it. However, Maintain some balance, there is more to life 

Life does not owe you anything, nobody does. Only you owe it to yourself. 

Money is so misunderstood.  It keeps people in the wrong job forever because they think they will not earn money doing what they love.

We will approach Work with purpose with the right intention. Any work with purpose will benefit someone somehow.  The money will come to support that intention, provided that we take what action we can and do not block the flow with fear.

Our throwaway society has forgotten that everything new has to come from somewhere, and everything old has to end up somewhere.

Regret 3: I wish I had the courage to express my feelings 

Working with the dead truly bought home the cycles of life. The things that keep a baby happy are food and the release of their bowels and wind.  At the end of life, people ask if the elderly are eating and if their bowels are functioning properly. 

It takes courage to express your feelings, particularly if you are not doing okay and need help. Or if you have never expressed your honest feelings to someone you love and don’t know how it will be received.  Honestly, I can’t even wipe my own bum when I am dying.  What does it matter? We are all human.  We are allowed to be vulnerable too. It is all part of the process. 

Taking people for granted could be a high price to pay. Hence it is imperative to share your feelings and listen to others regularly.  It takes courage to speak honestly and we cannot control the reactions of those of whom we share this openness.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end, it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win!

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Don’t lose touch with the friends you value most. Those who accept who you are and know you very well are worth more than anything at the End. 

A little time with friends remind them of who they are when they are not mum, dad, grandpa or grandma.  Find some balance and make time for your friends.  Do it for yourself ever more than for them.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
In modern society, little emphasis is placed on the spiritual and emotional well-being in the treatment of dying people.

Dying people have so many questions, things that they could have asked earlier in their life had they considered that they will die, as we all will.  They would not have to live in terror or denial about their impending death.

We will always want more in life, to a degree that is fine because that is part of growing.  However, we can never have everything we want and we will always be Growing, it is important to be able to appreciate what we have already. 

While working towards goals, the present moment is too often neglected. Often our happiness is based on the end results and was not enjoyed during the process of getting there.  Depending on the end result for your happiness is not the way to do it.  Gratitude for every day along the way is the key to acknowledging and enjoying happiness now.  Not when the results come in or when You retire, or when this or that happens.

I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
Life is your own and not someone’s else. If you are not finding happiness in what you have created and are doing nothing to improve it, then you would have wasted your life.


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